Power is the ability to bring about a change in one’s psychological environment.

Does this resonate with you? For someone to have the power to change your psychological environment, don’t you have to give them that power first? Or is this a psychological game people play?

All good questions. But the real question is this: when people attempt to use this power on you, do you recognize it?

Women are rescuers. Often at their own expense. They rescue people at work, in their companies, even distant relatives. It happens consciously and subconsciously. We don’t even recognize our codependent behavior until it's too late.

Women assume, sometimes against their better judgment, responsibility for making sure everyone is happy or at least satisfied. For some reason, we believe it's our job to make sure all is right with the world.

Confused? Not sure if this is you?

Here are a few regular statements from a bona fide rescuer:

Do you always do the right thing at the wrong time? Maybe you’re in the right place but the wrong time.

Timing is a trait everyone wishes they had.

Can the art of perfect timing be learned?

Is it simply a matter of thinking or listening to that feeling in your gut? It’s both.

The decision making part of your brain is constantly observing, storing, and arranging all the information it comes in contact with. It calculates what, when, and how we use that information.

Power at work, power in relationships, power in your words, and power in play – it’s everywhere!

Why?

Because it’s what makes things happen.

People make assumptions about power. They typically think of it as controlling another person, manipulating a situation, or threatening a way of thinking.

Not always.

Like a nuclear reactor, a volcano or love – all great power begins from within. The issue is what it gets used for.

The book, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff by Richard Carlson is a great book with good advice but it doesn’t tell the whole story. Rather, "the devil is in the details" does – if you ignore what is in your line of sight. Great business leaders and entrepreneurs know it’s the details that pull off the best laid plans. The challenge is to not let the small stuff drive you crazy while paying attention to the pea under the mattress. You need to realize the danger of ignoring the minute elements that will either make or break you and your success.

Discipline is one of the top skills you possess. How you practice restraint will make the difference between success and mediocrity. Whether you want to acquire the keys to the corner office, grow your online presence, or become the top salesperson, getting there will mean thinking differently about self-discipline.

Most people believe the company they presently have is the company they ideally want. Experiencing any success can be a smoke screen to what is really waiting for you. Too many people tend to accept what they are given rather than chase after what they want. They accept permission, generosity and handouts with a smile and nod of appreciation. But there is a difference of what you now have been conditioned to believe is success and what you want to define as success for you.